Had a picture taken with Hon. Luzviminda Ilagan during one of my best friend's debut who happens to be her grand daughter. Nyahahahaha! Lucky me. :D
And to make it look better, I'm in a dress! LOL.
November 10, 2011
November 05, 2011
The 3 Months Rule
When someone dear to me exits a relationship or break up with their lover, the first thing I do is comfort them (duh). Soon, after comforting them and making them feel a little better, I lecture to them about the 3 month rule. And they end up saying "Ha?" or "Okay.... Wait, what's that?" or they just simply ignore me. :(
As the search engine tells me, the 3 month rule states "that you must wait at least three months before getting excited about the long-term possibilities of a new person." Simply said, it's a rule that newly single people should follow when they fall out of love. There are 3 reasons why I think people should follow this rule.
First reason: When a person leaves a relationship, there is a feeling of the need to be loved and comforted to compensate his or her loss which is dangerous because when a person is in a state like this, it might drive them to be too attached to the next person who provides these needs to him/her. It's not safe for a person to get attached to someone quickly when the pain of the past is still there. They might fall in love again (too soon) and end up breaking their own hearts. It could 'cause an overlapping heart-ache from a person because right after a failed relationship, that person enters another one and then ends up with a heart ache again.
IT COULD CAUSE DEPRESSION.
Second reason: This rule should be followed because after a failed relationship, one should collect himself/herself and allow them to grow as an individual or maybe even think about why the relationship didn't last. Think back and look at what you did or what happened that made it end. 3 months is enough time for a person to find himself/herself and improve their individuality before they enter a new relationship. Basically, it's just enough time to develop one's self to prepare for a new relationship.
Third reason: It allows you to find someone else and getting to know them but no in a way that you are in a relationship with them. Give it time. Let those 3 months allow you to dig deep into that person's life so that you might know if that person is REALLY the one you want and if you can see a good future of a relationship with that person. Get to know that person. Find common interests. Talk to each other a lot and etcetera. If you like that person then maybe you have a good chance of having a good relationship with that person.
Basically, the 3-month rule allows an individual who just got out of a relationship to REPAIR themselves before a new heart break comes. It allows a person to GROW as an individual and develop themselves before they grow with others. And lastly, it allows a person to KNOW other people. It allows a person to expand their social circle too.. It's not a rule that if you break it, you'll go to jail but believe me, 3 months is worth the time to wait for the next person to come along.
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P.S. I followed the 3 month rule when I broke up with my last boyfriend (April 2010).. After those 3 months of reflecting, I chose to stay single and not have a relationship. (There are exceptions, though. Haha!) I hope this post can help those who just got out of a relationship. I'm no expert. I'm just highly recommending that you follow this rule.. :)
As the search engine tells me, the 3 month rule states "that you must wait at least three months before getting excited about the long-term possibilities of a new person." Simply said, it's a rule that newly single people should follow when they fall out of love. There are 3 reasons why I think people should follow this rule.
First reason: When a person leaves a relationship, there is a feeling of the need to be loved and comforted to compensate his or her loss which is dangerous because when a person is in a state like this, it might drive them to be too attached to the next person who provides these needs to him/her. It's not safe for a person to get attached to someone quickly when the pain of the past is still there. They might fall in love again (too soon) and end up breaking their own hearts. It could 'cause an overlapping heart-ache from a person because right after a failed relationship, that person enters another one and then ends up with a heart ache again.
IT COULD CAUSE DEPRESSION.
Second reason: This rule should be followed because after a failed relationship, one should collect himself/herself and allow them to grow as an individual or maybe even think about why the relationship didn't last. Think back and look at what you did or what happened that made it end. 3 months is enough time for a person to find himself/herself and improve their individuality before they enter a new relationship. Basically, it's just enough time to develop one's self to prepare for a new relationship.
Third reason: It allows you to find someone else and getting to know them but no in a way that you are in a relationship with them. Give it time. Let those 3 months allow you to dig deep into that person's life so that you might know if that person is REALLY the one you want and if you can see a good future of a relationship with that person. Get to know that person. Find common interests. Talk to each other a lot and etcetera. If you like that person then maybe you have a good chance of having a good relationship with that person.
Basically, the 3-month rule allows an individual who just got out of a relationship to REPAIR themselves before a new heart break comes. It allows a person to GROW as an individual and develop themselves before they grow with others. And lastly, it allows a person to KNOW other people. It allows a person to expand their social circle too.. It's not a rule that if you break it, you'll go to jail but believe me, 3 months is worth the time to wait for the next person to come along.
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P.S. I followed the 3 month rule when I broke up with my last boyfriend (April 2010).. After those 3 months of reflecting, I chose to stay single and not have a relationship. (There are exceptions, though. Haha!) I hope this post can help those who just got out of a relationship. I'm no expert. I'm just highly recommending that you follow this rule.. :)
That Guy I met During 1st Sem 2nd year
During 1st sem of my 2nd year in college, I made a new friend. He was actually a classmate in my minor subjects. During our nstp class, he went inside our room and it just so happened that I was at the aircon's control (which was right beside the door) so when he entered the room, I got startled and I looked at him. I was even more surprised to see that he was also looking at me at that time.
K. That moment was like "THE SPARK". LOL.
After that, every girl in the room started flocking around the new guy and then they had pictures taken with them. At the back of my head "LOL. Hope his head won't get bigger with this. He's not a celebrity." And then after that, he sat next to me while I played some games on a classmate's laptop. He was staring. It made me tense which made me lose the game. So, I got humiliated in front of him. Lol. We had our intros at that time. I said my name. He said his. Our teacher arrived and then he left.
After a few weeks, we got to know each other. We hanged out. We had dinner. We went home together. We talked about stuff. We hugged. We hugged tighter and then there was the kiss. (no mouth action here. Just the kiss on the cheek.UGH. Kbye. ) As the weeks progressed, I earned myself a set of haters. Apparently, one of them really hated my and kept on tweeting about me and my last name and all that shit. We did appear like lovers to a lot of people since we hanged out a lot and we even held hands out in public.
AND THEN AUGUST 10 came.
Everything was going so well. We were going along well. Communication was there but then he wanted to "stay on the friend zone".. I was devastated, of course because I thought I was falling in love with him (and I now feel ashamed to say that.) At first I was bitter about it because the season was so right for us to hang out 'cause it was college fiesta and that there was a lot of days when we didn't have classes.. I was much bitter about it because of the fact that he f*cking dumped me 18 days before my f*cking birthday. I know. It's not that close to my birthday... But it still mattered to me! It made the last few days of my 16-year-old life miserable but I got over it during the fiesta because I had fun.
Since I saw him everyday during class, I find it awkward to move around the classroom anymore. I was too pissed off that even the sense of him looking at me would enrage him. I hated him with all my gut. I got even mad during those times when I would accidentally look at him and them he would smile. Why would he do that? He knew that any girl would be mad at a guy for doing what he did. Ugh. I just wanted to kick him in the nuts back then. He never really did know the kind of bullshit I went through when I was hanging out with him along with those ******** people looking/observing us. That was actually part of why I was bitter. It was more of a pride thing,
What we had was good. Yes. But our togetherness was focused on the view that everything would go as planned and that we'd always be happy together yadda yadda. I was so caught up with what I felt that I actually forgot to go back to reality. It all happened to soon and for me that equates to LUST. Simply said, what I thought was love was actually my raging hormones acting up on me making me do things that gave him a motive to do those things back to me. And because of those raging hormones, I got hurt, depressed, pissed off, bitter and all other negative vibes that I could possibly name.
It was actually my first time having a (what I think) flirt-mate. I didn't really thought that the guy would like me back or flirt back with me but look! my plan worked. I'm awesome! Haha! :)
K. That moment was like "THE SPARK". LOL.
After that, every girl in the room started flocking around the new guy and then they had pictures taken with them. At the back of my head "LOL. Hope his head won't get bigger with this. He's not a celebrity." And then after that, he sat next to me while I played some games on a classmate's laptop. He was staring. It made me tense which made me lose the game. So, I got humiliated in front of him. Lol. We had our intros at that time. I said my name. He said his. Our teacher arrived and then he left.
After a few weeks, we got to know each other. We hanged out. We had dinner. We went home together. We talked about stuff. We hugged. We hugged tighter and then there was the kiss. (no mouth action here. Just the kiss on the cheek.UGH. Kbye. ) As the weeks progressed, I earned myself a set of haters. Apparently, one of them really hated my and kept on tweeting about me and my last name and all that shit. We did appear like lovers to a lot of people since we hanged out a lot and we even held hands out in public.
AND THEN AUGUST 10 came.
Everything was going so well. We were going along well. Communication was there but then he wanted to "stay on the friend zone".. I was devastated, of course because I thought I was falling in love with him (and I now feel ashamed to say that.) At first I was bitter about it because the season was so right for us to hang out 'cause it was college fiesta and that there was a lot of days when we didn't have classes.. I was much bitter about it because of the fact that he f*cking dumped me 18 days before my f*cking birthday. I know. It's not that close to my birthday... But it still mattered to me! It made the last few days of my 16-year-old life miserable but I got over it during the fiesta because I had fun.
Since I saw him everyday during class, I find it awkward to move around the classroom anymore. I was too pissed off that even the sense of him looking at me would enrage him. I hated him with all my gut. I got even mad during those times when I would accidentally look at him and them he would smile. Why would he do that? He knew that any girl would be mad at a guy for doing what he did. Ugh. I just wanted to kick him in the nuts back then. He never really did know the kind of bullshit I went through when I was hanging out with him along with those ******** people looking/observing us. That was actually part of why I was bitter. It was more of a pride thing,
What we had was good. Yes. But our togetherness was focused on the view that everything would go as planned and that we'd always be happy together yadda yadda. I was so caught up with what I felt that I actually forgot to go back to reality. It all happened to soon and for me that equates to LUST. Simply said, what I thought was love was actually my raging hormones acting up on me making me do things that gave him a motive to do those things back to me. And because of those raging hormones, I got hurt, depressed, pissed off, bitter and all other negative vibes that I could possibly name.
It was actually my first time having a (what I think) flirt-mate. I didn't really thought that the guy would like me back or flirt back with me but look! my plan worked. I'm awesome! Haha! :)
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| That's him. Haha. We had that taken on the last day of our class and right after our Eng21 Variety show. Yes, we reconciled but I won't be telling you why anymore 'cause I'm too lazy to type it down. Haha! |
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